Do you ever wonder… how did I get here?
How am I 30-40-50 and not know who I am? How is it possible that I am so confused and unhappy with my identity and my life?
I’ve had those exact thoughts and so I took to do some research. And here’s what I found…
According to Dr. Bessel van Der Kolk, it’s all about the trauma.
Trauma affects areas of the brain that are associated with consciousness. When the body is experiencing trauma or PTSD (prolonged trauma of any shape or kind), it affects our sense of self. Those areas in the brain, simply don’t light up! And so we don’t know what we want, who we are, what we are doing, or what’s best for us.
Fascinating right?
We literally learn to shut down those parts of our brains that are associated with feeling and emotion to not feel the terror. But unfortunately, those are the SAME parts of our brains that affect our self awareness, who we are, what we feel.
This is why when clients come to me with some sort of an identity crisis, it’s never really about who they are or not knowing. It’s that their bodies and mind don’t feel safe enough to let the truth be unveiled. It’s always within us .. it’s just a matter of allowing it to out and feeling safe enough to do so.
So if you’re in this boat right now … confused about who or what or if or how… take a deep breath. Allow your shoulders to relax and simply tell yourself that it is safe. Safe to be. Safe to feel. Safe to breathe.
Start here.
And then join us as we embark on an 8 week journey into discovering our REAL, AUTHENTIC, and UNIQUE selves as a group. Where you will learn my processes and techniques as well as receive support to finally feel safe again in your body. To finally be confident with who you are.